It's Ok That's Normal!

If there is one thing I have realized the most as a new mother it is the amount of advice and opinions you get regardless of whether you want them or not. From your family to friends all the way to your neighbours’ best friends’ cousin who’s twice removed. Everyone seems to have an opinion. The thing is no matter how helpful or unhelpful it can be sometimes these four words help far more than any piece of advice every will: “It’s ok that’s normal”

I have questioned myself continuously throughout motherhood from sleep, to feeding and everything in between wondering whether the choices I made were "right." A lot of times the struggles I was feeling, whether Maevery wasn’t sleeping through the night when I thought she should be or when the sleep training we worked so hard on began to fail and Maevery would scream for forty five minutes before bed, I would panic because I thought I was failing and that something was wrong. Some people would give me advice tell me to read certain books or change the way I was doing things but most of the time that only made me feel less confident and second guess myself even more. The thing is what helped me the most instead of the books and advice was someone telling me that it’s normal. That not all babies slept through the night , or that sleep regression exists and again is NORMAL. Of course advice when asked is so helpful but it cannot be compared to someone telling you what your feeling and going through is normal and ok. That the decisions you're making are yours and are the right ones!

So, I decided to write this blog for all you mommas out there. The ones going through rough patches, the ones second guessing and comparing, the ones watching Instagram moms and feeling less than this one’s for you….

IT’S OK….

It’s ok if you gave a soother in the first two minutes of your baby being born or if you never gave a pacifier once.

It’s ok if you breast fed for eighteen months or only formula fed.

It’s ok if you slept with your baby in your bed until they were two years old or put your baby in their crib the minute they were born.

It’s ok if you sleep train your baby or rock them to bed every night.

It's ok if you use all-natural organic products or just rock Johnson’s

It's ok if you get the most expensive stroller or the cheapest.

It's ok if you never expose your child to TV or embrace the technology around us fully.

It's ok if you read all the books on parenting or none of them.

It's ok if your baby sleeps through the night or wakes up 2-3 times or more.

The point is whatever you decide as a parent is OK and the stages you’re going through are all normal! Everyone parents differently and what works for one family won’t work for another. So, feel confident in the decisions your making. Through all the noise and self-doubt remember that you are doing amazing!!

Bye For Now,

From One Wild Mother to Another